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Marriage Equality

Somewhere in the dream

My Handsome, Strong Willed Warrior husband--Venice 2014

My Handsome, Strong Willed Warrior husband--Venice 2014

Somewhere in the dream we had an epiphany
Now we right the wrongs in history
No one can win the war individually
It takes the wisdom of the elders and young people's energy
Welcome to the story we call victory
Comin' of the Lord, my eyes have seen the glory         --John Legend "Glory" from the movie Selma

The Rev. Dr. James H. Hargett married us in 2005

The Rev. Dr. James H. Hargett married us in 2005

A picture is worth a thousand words, or so it is said...
In the Spring of 2005, a Dream came true for me and I married my wonderful, wonder-filled, handsome, hardworking husband, Bill.  William means:  "strong-willed warrior".  I'm always fascinated by names and how their meanings seem to "fit" a person almost always perfectly!  
warrior is defined as:  "a brave or experienced soldier or fighter."  He could not have been more perfectly named!

Not only did I marry an extraordinary man, our wedding was officiated by another extraordinary man: my husband's Uncle Jim--The Reverend Dr. James H. Hargett:   
 "Reverend Dr. James Hester Hargett, community advocate and civil rights activist, spent over forty years as a United Church of Christ pastor in churches located in the states of California, Hawaii, Illinois, New Jersey, and New York. His ministry focused on the recruitment of African Americans in Christian service and activities in the areas of community advocacy, education, human relations, mental health, and social justice..."

The Rev. Dr. James H. and Dr. Louilyn (Funderburk) Hargett with daughter, Hester Hargett-AuPetit June 2014

The Rev. Dr. James H. and Dr. Louilyn (Funderburk) Hargett with daughter, Hester Hargett-AuPetit June 2014

n 2013, The Mayor of Los Angeles, Eric Garcetti, appointed my husband to the Board of Commissioners of the Los Angeles Department of Water and Power (LADWP)--the largest municipal utility in the nation.  LADWP sponsored a remarkable event to celebrate the 50th Anniversary of the Civil Rights Act of 1964.  At this ceremony, my husband had the honor as a commissioner and the privilege as a nephew,  to introduce his Uncle for his many years of tireless, selfless service to others, to his community, and to the civil rights for all.  His award reads:    
“Resolution    The Rev. Dr. James H. Hargett
WHEREAS, Rev. Dr. James H. Hargett has dedicated his life to the community and civil rights and has demonstrated his deep and genuine love for this city and this country through his continued involvement in numerous endeavors toward gaining equality for all citizens regardless of race, gender or color and
WHEREAS, Rev. Dr. James H. Hargett was active in numerous local efforts for civil rights; marched from Selma to Montgomery with Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., served as the West Coast convener of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference, helped found the Central City Community Mental Health Clinic for the poor…”
WARRIORS. 
This past Saturday, I had the distinct pleasure of accompanying my husband and our youngest daughter, Claire, to experience the movie SELMA.
"There are no words to soothe you".  For me, that single line in the movie is SO riveting, SO poignant, SO very real.  Civil Rights victories can definitely change the future; but, they can never undo the horrific past.

WARRIORS.
The Loving v. Virginia ruling of 1967 made it legal for my husband and I to marry just 38 years later in 2005.

"There is patently no legitimate overriding purpose independent of invidious racial discrimination which justifies this classification. The fact that Virginia prohibits only interracial marriages involving white persons demonstrates that the racial classifications must stand on their own justification, as measures designed to maintain White Supremacy ...
"The freedom to marry has long been recognized as one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness by free men ... To deny this fundamental freedom on so unsupportable a basis as the racial classifications embodied in these statutes, classifications so directly subversive of the principle of equality at the heart of the Fourteenth Amendment, is surely to deprive all the State's citizens of liberty without due process of law. The Fourteenth Amendment requires that the freedom of choice to marry not be restricted by invidious racial discriminations. Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry, a person of another race resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the State."--Chief Justice Earl Warren on the 1967 Loving v. Virginia ruling.
 

WARRIORS.
Looking back, the past 25 years or so can be seen as an extraordinary generation of societal change and gay-rights activism that soon may well culminate in same-sex marriage rights for all.  

Gay Marriage 2015

Gay Marriage 2015

My husband and I are polar opposites in many respects.  He loves chaos, I love order.  He loves to be late, I'm always early. He's the first born son with sisters and I'm the first born girl with brothers and a sister.  He sees the whole forest, I see the trees. He likes to save money, I have a propensity to spend it.  
We are both born under the sign of Leo.  Strong-willed WARRIORS.  
We both fight for the underdog.
We understand and respect people's differences.  
We just celebrated our 10th wedding Anniversary in Venice--the most dreamy, romantic, beautiful city in the world.  When we first met back in 1999, he gave me the first of many books: "The Art Book".  Inside, he inscribed these words: 
"To a wonderful, caring, sensitive and STRONG woman whose art, words, and letters have lifted me.  I hope this brings you JOY and something to think about as you ponder--and we ponder--life's endless connections and the wonder of art around us."
   

Uncle Jim with Martin Luther King, Jr. Selma to Montgomery 1965

Uncle Jim with Martin Luther King, Jr. Selma to Montgomery 1965

Somewhere in The Dream, we had an epiphany.
WARRIORS. 
William: My Hero.
Together, we march forward.
We are ALL connected.  

I can't believe the news today
I can't close my eyes and make it go away.
How long, how long must we sing this song?
How long, how long?
'Cos tonight
We can be as one, tonight.